Welcome Our Guest, Avery Forrest

Please join me in welcoming my friend, Avery Forrest, as today’s guest blogger. Avery is a photographer and wife of 11 years to Todd Forrest, Pastor of Anchor Point Church in Foley, Alabama.  She is passionate about women’s ministry and is such a blessing to our community with the healing she’s helped women all over the Alabama Gulf Coast experience.  I pray that you are inspired by the word God has given her to share with all of us.

She welcomes you to connect with her through the her website at www.averyforrest.com or her blog at www.livelifeintentional.com.

I encourage you to press in and read on to receive the blessing of the following blog post on the miracle of oneness!


Two Become One

“And the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh (Mark 10:8).”

It is the month of February….the month of Love. If we are not careful, we could find ourselves binging on Hallmark movies and not even make it out of our PJ’s.

Am I right? We all love love. We were created for love and relationship. Click To Tweet

In two weeks my hubby and I will celebrate 11 years! I think back to our wedding day and our vows. We pledged our vows, before God and witnesses, to forsake all others and pledge our lives to each other.

My favorite thing about weddings is the miracle that happens at the alter – the miracle of oneness. Vows are pledged, rings are exchanged, and then a minister prays and the vows are sealed with a kiss. The minister pronounces them husband and wife. The two are now one! They met at that alter separately, as two individuals, and walk back down the aisle together arm in arm, but miraculously as one! It is such a beautiful thing.

The deal is that I think there are a lot of people who do not realize and grasp the miracle that occurred on their wedding day. They don’t walk away ready for a life of oneness. Somewhere along the way, no matter how strong the marriage, oneness with our spouse can begin to fade. I feel like there are two types of marriages.

  1. The marriages where two people grasp the miracle of oneness and make it a priority.
  2. The marriage where this miracle isn’t grasped and is spent with two people fighting the miracle that has happened.

The first type of marriage is typically a healthy and strong marriage. Note that I did not say perfect marriage! Every marriage will have seasons of difficulty but when God is the center, and being one is a priority, your marriage can and will make it through difficulty stronger.

A marriage like this seeks to tackle life head on together as one instead of looking at each other as the problem or the enemy. This type of marriage is spent making time to communicate a priority, intimacy a priority, and time together in friendship a priority. A lifetime marriage means a lifetime of embracing the miracle of oneness.

The second type of marriage is typically one that involves struggle and pain. When the miracle of oneness hasn’t been grasped and troubles and difficult seasons arise, defenses go up. A lot of times the enemy uses the blame game to destroy oneness with our spouse.

The more we use our defenses against each other, the more we build up walls and the harder it is for oneness to live. Click To Tweet

These marriages can end quickly or go on for years and years. You hear them say things like, “I feel like we’re just roommates” or “I don’t even know my spouse anymore.” The truth is, God never intended for it to be that way! He meant for marriage to be the beautiful miracle of oneness. He stated that the day he created marriage in Genesis 2:24.

We can all use more oneness, so how can we cultivate more oneness in our marriages?

  1. Invite a third party into the mix…God! Marriage is HIS miracle, He is the miracle worker. You must make sure to seek God for your marriage. Begin by inviting God into your marriage. Give Him your marriage. Do this as a couple.
  2. Have you and your spouse rate the oneness of your marriage. Getting on the same page about where your marriage is really is a vital part of setting the foundation for oneness.
  3. Be ready to communicate. Get ready to have conversations that will be healing to your marriage. My husband and I have used the conversation starters below over a period of a few weeks and we have seen our oneness grow. I hope that it does the same for you.
  4. Pray with each other and for each other. NOT about each other. Spend a few minutes every day for a week praying out loud for each other. When you hear each other pray what you believe and want for each other it can and will be transformational. It will grow you in oneness.
  5. Ask them if they will go get counseling with you. Consider counseling if your marriage is in a truly damaged place where you don’t think either one of you could sit in a room together and begin doing some of these things. Asking for real help in your marriage may be where you have to start and that is okay. If you don’t know where to look for help, reach out through the www.ChristianFreedom.Life blog and they can point you in the direction.

Conversation Starters

Here are the conversation starters. Go have a coffee date and be prepared to ask each other these questions:

  • How are you doing…really?
  • How are we doing?
  • What is my greatest strength?
  • What is my greatest weakness?
  • Have I hurt you?
  • How can I better serve you (name one tangible thing each)?

My prayer for you all is that you experience and embrace the miracle of oneness. This is the Lord’s plan for your marriage. Receive it and the blessings all that this miracle comes with.

Our Prayer

A Prayer of Oneness

God, today we give you our marriage. Today we ask that you take us back to that alter where we vowed before you to love, honor, serve, respect, and protect each other. Revive the miracle that you did that day.

Take us back to the place where we walked away together as one. Reveal to each of us where we have wounded and offended each other. Bring healing through the conversations we have over the next weeks as we journey to bring oneness in our marriage.

I thank you for my marriage. I thank you for my spouse. I thank you for the miracle of marriage. I thank you for your plan and design from the beginning to be one. I pray all of this in your mighty name and ability to do a miracle once again. Do this miracle daily in our lives and marriages.

In Jesus’ Name,

Scriptures for Meditation

~ 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

~ Mark 10:9

Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

~ Song of Solomon 8:6-7

Place me like a seal over your heart,
    like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
    its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
    like a mighty flame.
Many waters cannot quench love;
    rivers cannot sweep it away.
If one were to give
    all the wealth of one’s house for love,
    it would be utterly scorned.

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